July 20, 2008

Secret 4 – Question Everything you Know

So did you take me up on my challenge from last time? Have you learned to stop beating yourself up? Are you able to appreciate the experience and learn from it? Congratulations! You are well on your way to regaining your passion for life.
As promised – the fourth secret is Question Everything you Know. Did you ever wonder why you do the things that you do? I know I found myself doing things because I have always done them since childhood and never questioned why I did them. When I started on my self-growth journey I found that many of the things that I was doing no longer supported my new found authentic self.
We are all products of some type of conditioning from childhood. We learn a lot about life and who we believe we are from our childhood. Sometimes however this conditioning no longer supports us as we begin to explore the world and develop our own beliefs and values, but we fail to change the behaviors that no longer support us because they are ingrained and become automatic.
Turn off that auto-pilot and begin to live your life consciously.
Now is your opportunity to begin questioning why you do the things you do. Do you do them because they are a reflection of who you are? Are they supporting you to reach your life vision? Or are you doing them because that is what you have always done?
By not stopping and questioning why you do what you do, you end up filling your life up with actions and things that do not support you. And as a result you inevitably find that you don’t have the time to purse the things that speak to your soul.
You are not alone, not having enough time is a real problem for many - time was the second highest ranked response (42%) after money (75%) in a survey when participants were asked “what do you wish you had more of”.
Just imagine by taking a few minutes each day to ask yourself “does this action still support me or am I doing it because I always have” you will gain something that you want in life “more time”. And if you did have more time what would you do with it? Would you focus more on your business? If so then you will be getting two of the things that you say you want more of - time and money.
I challenge you to turn off that auto-pilot and start living your life consciously. Begin to question everything you do and your belief system. You will be amazed at what you gain!
Need help turning off the auto-pilot? Are you ready to start living your life consciously? Do you want more time for the things that you love? Do you need support in identifying the things that no longer support you? If so then sign up for a 30 minute self empowerment coaching session and begin celebrating your greatness!
Be sure to come back next time when I reveal strategies for secret number five; Ask for Support.

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July 15, 2008

Living Passionately: Getting Beyond Divorce Radio Show July 17, 2008 Episode - Journey from I-to-We

The show airs live every Thursday at 1:00 PM Pacific/4:00 PM Eastern. Please call in with your questions at 1-866-472-5788.

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Is your current relationship full of turmoil? Do you wish you could reconnect with your partner and find that love again? Have you recently divorced or ended a long term relationship? Do you want to learn how to have a more successful relationship next time? Then you will want to tune in as I interview Glenn Cohen, Certified Relationship Coach, owner of I-to-We (www.i-to-we.org) and author of The Journey from "I-to-We": Create an Emotionally Intelligent Relationship. 

Glenn will share with the listeners his theory on how conflicts begin, the reason why we have such challenges communicating with our partner, which leaves us frustrated and disappointed and the 4 key skill sets all relationships need in order to be successful. So if you want to turn your tumultuous relationship into one of peace and harmony or lay the foundation for a successful new relationship then you won't want to miss this show!

Tune into the Living Passionately: Getting Beyond Divorce Radio Show

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July 10, 2008

Living Passionately Radio Show - July 10, 2008 Episode

The show airs live every Thursday at 1:00 PM Pacific/4:00 PM Eastern. Please call in with your questions at 1-866-472-5788.

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If you are living fearfully, unconsciously, and on emotional autopilot, then it's likely your relationships are fear-filled and unconscious. If you want to start living your life in a way that is distinctly different then you will want to tune in as I interview Laurie Cameron, Certified Coach and Master Certified Relationship Coach (http://www.lauriecameron.com) as we discuss her book, The Journey from Fear to Love - Waking Up and Walking the "Evolutionary Relationship" Path with your Partner. 

Laurie will reveal the most common problems that plague all too many relationships as well as suggestions on how to transform your difficult relationships into loving, compassionate, positive and powerful ones. If your relationships are not at the level that you want them to be and are based primarily in fear then you won't want to miss this show - come join us and wake up to what is possible!

Tune into the Living Passionately: Getting Beyond Divorce Radio Show

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July 5, 2008

Secret #3 – Stop Beating Yourself Up

So did you take me up on my challenge from secret #2? Did you push past your story and uncover what it is that you are truly afraid of? What did you uncover? Remember, once you have identified the fear, you can begin to work on the real issue and begin setting the foundation to have all that you desire. The first step is identifying what you are the most afraid of – this can be difficult because our stories help us keep that fear hidden. Remember, if you can’t get out of your story and get to the core of what is keeping you stuck, be sure to ask for support. Until you release the fear – you are inhibited by it and then you can’t have all that you truly desire in life. Again, the choice is yours.  What will it be? Will you choose to be stuck in your story and inhibited by fear, or will you choose to unravel your story and push through the fear and discover your greatness? My hope is that you choose the latter rather than the former.  Trust me–the rewards on the other side are worth it! Maybe "Secret #3: Stop Beating Yourself Up" will be your incentive to get moving if you haven’t already.
As promised – the third secret is "Stop Beating Yourself Up".  I think it is fair to say that we are all our own greatest critics. I bet if I asked you to list five things that you don’t like about yourself you could easily come up with a list and could easily surpass the five and fill up a whole page right? If that is the case, then I encourage you to read on so you can learn how to stop beating yourself up.
In a recent survey participants were asked, “What are you the most afraid of?” The overwhelming response was failure (50%), the runner up was embarrassment (30%). I began to wonder why that was. After all, who defines what failure is or what an embarrassing moment looks like? Could it be you? Could you be your own worst critic?
How about if you stop beating yourself up about things that you perceive as a failure, and start using the experience as a learning opportunity. Rather than saying, “boy was that stupid” or “I am such a loser”, stop and take a moment to thank the situation for an opportunity learned. Ask yourself, “what can I learn from this experience?” Then appreciate that you did the best you could with the information you had at the time. I know that if you knew what you know now, you would have done differently, right?
So my challenge to you is, stop beating yourself up and start congratulating yourself for what you have learned! And, if nothing else, congratulate yourself for taking a risk even if it didn’t turn out the way you thought it should. Here's to your greatness!

Need support in changing your perception of yourself. Are ready to start revealing your greatness to the world? Are you ready to stop beating yourself up? If so, then sign up for a coaching session today and begin celebrating your greatness!

Be sure to come back next time when I reveal strategies for secret #4: "Question Everything you Know".

See you next time!

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July 1, 2008

Living Passionately Radio Show - July 3, 2008 Episode

This week's show is a must if you feel that you have no control over your life, that you are stuck with what life has dealt you, you have no power to change it and you beat yourself up regularly with negative self talk. The topic of this week's show is the Impact of Choices & Self Talk During Divorce Recovery. The show airs live every Thursday at 1:00 PM Pacific/4:00 PM Eastern. Please call in with your questions at 1-866-472-5788.

Show Details are Below: 

 

Are you struggling to make sense out of your life now that divorce is a part of it? Do you struggle with negativity or low self-esteem? Do you feel as if you have lost control over your life? If you answered yes to any or all of these questions then you will want to tune in as I interview Michelle Blacksher, Certified Master Relationship Coach and owner of Restored Hope Coaching (www.mannacoaching.com) on the subject of Choices and Self Talk During Divorce Recovery. 

Believe it or not we do have choices during the divorce recovery process; Michelle will share with you how to become empowered by the choices you make. We will also be discussing how self talk has a huge impact on your divorce recovery process - learn how to replace the negative self talk with more proactive and positive self talk. If you want to take back control, actively participate in the designing of your future after divorce and rebuild your self esteem - then this is a show you won't want to miss.

 

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June 20, 2008

14 Dating Strategies Teleseminar

Do you wonder why the old dating and mating practices don’t seem to work?

As the divorce rate seems to skyrocket, don't you wish you could learn the way to create a successful long lasting and sustaining partnership with another person in today’s world?

Well, Coach Lisa Fredette is here to help you!

Join Lisa for the

14 Dating Strategies Teleseminar

on

July 14, 2008

at 8:30pm EDT

for a fun and fascinating presentation that will expose the harmful dating and relationship traps, as well as provide tips to help you avoid them.

Being single is a golden opportunity to prepare for the life and relationship you really deserve. We all want to be in happy and fulfilling relationships. Few singles seem to realize the choices they make when single can sabotage or enhance their success in a future relationship.  

How you will benefit from attending this teleseminar:

  • Get answers to your dating questions
  • Find out your level of readiness for a long term relationship
  • Realize how the choices you make while single affect your future relationships
  • Learn the tips that can enhance relationships
  • Understand the harmful relationship traps and how to avoid them

The 14 Dating Strategies Teleseminar is only $17, so don't wait to register. You just need to fill out the form below to participate in this 90 minute teleseminar.

Allow Lisa  to show you how to GET OUT of  the traps that are keeping you involved with the wrong person and making you unavailable when the right one comes along.

 

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Secret #2 – Symptoms Not the Cause

So did you take me up on my challenge from last time? Did you give yourself permission to have what it is that you want out of life? How does it feel? What - you say you didn’t do it? Let me guess, you allowed that long laundry list of reasons, no I guess I should say excuses, stop you from getting what you want. As I have said many times, the choice is yours – you either choose to make changes or you choose to stay stuck. What will you choose?
Maybe secret number two will give you the incentive you need to make the changes. Or if you took me up on my challenge, congratulations, you are well on your way to regaining your passion for life.
As promised – the second secret is Symptoms not the Cause: Getting out of your Story. We all have our stories and these stories support our actions, so we often times feel justified in how our life looks and why we don’t have what we want. Many call this being the victim. The first step in getting out of your story is being aware of your story. Let me explain.
We all have our stories. What does your story look like? Your story is probably the symptom and not the cause of why you don’t have your heart’s desire. By working with the true cause, fear, you can eliminate the symptom and you can have all that you want.
Let me give you an example; one of my clients came to me because of her overwhelming feeling of jealousy. She felt uncomfortable with her husband’s friendship with one of her friends. She truly believed that was what she needed support with. Unbeknownst to her the jealously was only the symptom not the cause for her feelings of insecurity. Through the coaching sessions she was able to uncover the cause - fear of being alone and the symptom, jealousy, went away.
I challenge you to push past your story and uncover what it is that you are truly afraid of, could it be fear of failure, fear of being alone, fear of embarrassment. Once you have identified the fear you can begin to work on the real issue and begin setting the foundation to have all that you desire.
Having a hard time deciphering the difference between your story and what is really going on? Are you ready to face fear in the face and get to the real truth? Not able to do it alone then ask for support by signing up for a sample coaching session today. Let’s unravel your story together.
Be sure to come back next time when I reveal strategies for secret number three: Stop Beating Yourself Up! See you again soon!

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June 18, 2008

Living Passionately Radio Show - June 19, 2008 Episode

This week's show is a must if you are divorced and are sharing custody with your Ex-Spouse. The topic of this week's show is Joint Custody with a Jerk. The show airs live every Thursday at 1:00 PM Pacific/4:00 PM Eastern. Please call in with your questions at 1-866-472-5788. 

Show details below:

Are you sharing custody with your ex-spouse? Do you cringe every time you need to interact with your ex regarding your children? Does it seem like every discussion turns into a battle? Do you ever feel like you are co-parenting with a jerk? If you can relate to any of these questions then you want to be sure to tune in as I interview Julie A. Ross, M.A. co-author of Joint Custody with a Jerk - Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex (http://www.parentinghorizons.com). 

Julie's book has some fabulous strategies that can be implemented right now - taking away the struggles that many parents face when co-parenting with an ex. After this interview and after reading Julie's book you will have some real concrete ways to deal more effectively with your ex. You surely won't want to miss this show if you have any desire to bring back some peace and sanity into your life, not only for you but for your children as well.

Come listen live to Living Passionately: Getting Beyond Divorce

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June 17, 2008

Fearlessly Speaking with Jacqueline Wales

I was recently interviewed by Jacqueline Wales owner of Fearless Fifties and the host of Fearlessly Speaking - The Talk Radio with Attitude.
 
Listen in as we discuss how divorce affects the Baby Boomer generation. Learn how if used correctly - a transition such as divorce can be your launching pad to greatness. Find out how baby boomers can turn their divorce into a celebration of life!

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Click here lisafredette.com/blog/interviews-2/ to listen to other interviews!

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June 12, 2008

Child Centered Divorce - Tune in Today at 1:00 PM Pacific/4:00 PM Eastern

Rosalind Sedacca, The Voice of Child Centered Divorce will be my guest today on the Living Passionately - Getting Beyond Divorce Radio Show. The show airs live every Thursday at 1:00 pm Pacific/4:00 pm Eastern so be sure to tune in and call with your questions at 1-866-472-5788.
 
Today's Show details are listed below:

If you’re a parent facing divorce or the challenges of parenting post-divorce tune in as I interview Rosalind Sedacca, CCT, author of How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook™ Guide to Preparing Your Children – with Love!  

Learn how to create a positive, child-centered divorce that will positively support you and your children for years to come. Recognized as the Voice of Child Centered Divorce, (http://www.childcentereddivorce.com) Rosalind will share valuable insights about preparing your children for separation or divorce. Her strategies will enable you to have a healthy dialogue with your children so they feel safe, involved and heard. 

Rosalind’s innovative new book provides fill-in-the-blank templates to help you create a personal family storybook as a proven tool for breaking the news. She also shares expertise on co-parenting and maintaining family relationships. If you want to master parenting through and after divorce, you won’t want to miss this show.

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